5 ways to balance independence and togetherness in a relationship

Hello You, Hope this blog finds you in a good and healthy state of mind. We might not know each other, but one thing for sure is common between us, and that is our worries on how to maintain a healthy balance of independence and togetherness, when we step into a love — relationship. It is, indeed, a crucial part of any successful relationship. And while it can be tempting to merge your lives completely; my breakup did taught me very well, how important it is to maintain your own sense of self and independence in order to maintain a strong and fulfilling relationship.

While most of the scars do fade away with time, there are still some damages which can't be healed.

Well, From what I believe and learned so far, here are five ways to work upon to maintain that balance independence and togetherness in your relationship:

Communicate openly and honestly.

As simple as it can be said, effective communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. We often tend to start relationships on the basis of some unspoken truth and later which becomes the biggest pain point. Easiest remedy for this is be open and honest with your partner about your needs and desires for independence and togetherness. Discuss how you can both support each other’s individual pursuits while still maintaining a strong connection as a couple. And while being honest is important, be mindful while choosing your words, being honest does not mean being rude, or saying something that might hurt your partner’s feelings by any means.

Prioritize quality time together.

Life is always ready to through a new challenge at you every single minute. While, at times, it might not be possible to ignore a particular task you are working upon, there are certainly multiple moments where you can take out time and keep it exclusively for your partner. And make sure to set aside this quality time to spend together regularly. I chose a weekly date night as the most feasible one. Obviously it’s up to you to plan a movie night or a weekend getaway , but the important thing is to prioritize this time and make it a regular part of your routine. This not only leaves you stress free, but also helps you maintain a strong emotional connection with your partner while still pursuing your own interests and goals. And this takes us to our 3rd important point.

Pursue individual hobbies and interests.

At one point of my previous relationship, I almost felt so mundane and routine that it really became very evident how badly we both wanted a new spark in our relationship. While togetherness is what brought you together with your partner at first place, maintaining independence in a relationship is a vital aspect to consider too. Pursuing your own interests and hobbies outside of your partner, is indeed, important to let you be the person with whom your partner actually fall for and see that person growing over period of time. Take up a new hobby or explore a passion that you’ve always been interested in. This will help you maintain your sense of self while also bringing new experiences and insights to your relationship.

Respect each other’s boundaries.

In any healthy relationship, it’s important to respect each other’s boundaries. This includes respecting each other’s need for alone time and personal space. Make sure to communicate clearly about your needs and boundaries, and respect each other’s right to pursue individual interests and activities.

Practice self-care.

Maintaining independence in a relationship also means taking care of your own physical and emotional needs. Prioritize self-care activities like exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends and family. By taking care of your own needs, you’ll be better equipped to maintain

While all of these are pretty much important, the last one I feel is the key. There’s a very basic concept, unless you are happy by yourself, how would you ever be able to make someone else happy. Balancing independence and togetherness in a relationship is all about communication, prioritizing quality time together, pursuing individual interests, respecting each other’s boundaries, and practicing self-care. By finding the right balance between these factors, you can build a strong and fulfilling relationship, not only with your partner, but with anyone and everyone you are associated with in some way or the other.

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